There is so much going right in my world that I shouldn’t dwell on the downer stuff – but the holidays push me towards that abyss. And no one would fault me for whining and complaining. But I’m going to try and take a different tack.
Tomorrow will be the first Thanksgiving that I won’t get to talk with my big brother. There’s been a lot of firsts since that sad day last Spring when cancer took his life.
That’s the mean thing about death. Those left mourning get to experience the first birthday, first pick-a-holiday, and first pick-a-season. But what about those others who are living with this? Every day I read about another person who was wiped off of this planet by something tragic. There are a zillion people experiencing their own first______ since ______ died.
I want to celebrate resiliency. My brother had 2 sisters and me. [Our parents passed years ago.] He also had a wonderful wife,2 sons, and a daughter. Each of those people have their own family. If we call these folks the immediate family circle, then we have 15 individuals who all are dealing with this loss in different ways. And they are all going to be ok – we’re all going to be ok.
So I want to think about things I am thankful for, such as:
- 25 years of marriage
- a great wife who keeps the ship heading fair
- a great daughter and son who are heading in the right direction and, by all accounts, will be people others will look up to in life
- wonderful sisters (MaryAnn, Janice, Alice)
- incredibly gifted nephews/nieces – 6 amazingly talented people.
- a job with a good salary – I get to work with some great professionals
- good health – I haven’t had to spend time in a hospital since losing my appendix back in 1987.
- ready to go somewhere else to work – and there are options out there!
It’s Thanksgiving. I have so much to be thankful for and I am already looking forward to Thanksgiving 2015 – because it won’t be 2014!
My best to each and every one of you. Take time to find at least one thing you are thankful for – and then hold on tight to that one item. Keep a vision of that one thing with you for all of those bad times that are waiting out there for you. Here’s to resiliency – cheers.